From Feminist Eye View, Have you lost weight?
Have you lost weight?
You look really good. How much do you weigh now?
Are you a size four? Oh, uh size two, eh? You look great.
For a person with an eating disorder, these questions do not come as a compliment. No matter how much she weighs, what size pant she wears, or how skinny she looks in the mirror, it will never be enough. No matter what you say, it will never be enough. No matter how healthy she is, it will never be enough. And that is why I ask that you take a few things in consideration when commenting on a woman’s appearance
Then follows some useful advice for talking to people about food and weight, especially if you know they have an eating disorder. The post is directed at women obviously, but I think the advice holds for men and non-binary people with eating distress too.